Dating people chronic illness
You don’t have to settle for someone you’re not into, or who doesn’t treat you properly, just because you may have a complicated illness.You are not your disease and you shouldn’t be treated in any way that suggests you are.Well, before filling up your calendar with potential male or female suitors, you should have a clear idea of the type of qualities to look for in a mate.Surely, you want a partner, NOT a caregiver, right?
I mean, how do you mention your daily routine of popping more pills than a small tub of popcorn (minus the fake butter) and spending nights curled up in an ice-cold bathtub administering "reverse lattes" (street slang for Just don't go overboard with details or throw in terminology only you and your doctor would understand.In Stephen Chbosky wrote “We accept the love we think we deserve.” And this is true.So before you put on that lipstick or that nice shirt, look at your reflection in the mirror and remind yourself that you deserve to be loved just as much as anyone else.But I felt the conversation only coasting along at a superficial level, and my interest in him was waning.So I decided, as an experiment, to "lead with vulnerability" and tell him what I usually avoid discussing until I know someone better.
Keep it simple, straight-forward and non-emotional. Let your date steer the direction of the conversation once you tell your story.